Are the people around you acting like crabs…
..and stopping you from achieving your goals?
This is Steve and I’m the COO at Clarity. You may have experienced being held back and not achieving what you set out to do. I certainly have. But what do crabs have to do with this? And how does this relate to you being the Hero (and maybe the Guide) to your clients, in ‘your story’?
Picture, if you will, a bucket full of crabs. One crab has climbed on top of the others and is about to escape. What happens next? Well, interestingly enough, the other crabs pull it back down, stopping that one crab from saving itself. By effectively declaring that no one escapes, they all end up being cooked and eaten!
In the world of psychology, this is described as people choosing the familiar instead of comfort. In other words, staying in the ‘safe’ familiarity, even if it’s harmful, instead of moving to a place of comfort.
This crab mentality (also known as Crab Theory) happens in society too.
In the general public, we see this with people (actors, singers, sportspeople etc) that are put on pedestals. It’s human nature to want to knock them back down ‘with the rest of us’ because if “I can’t have it, no one can”.
On an individual level, it may end up with you being stopped by those around you from making a change, or doing something different. A change that would help you learn and grow to achieve a goal to be the best ‘you’.
Those around you could be partners, team members, family members and friends. Most don’t realise they’re stopping you from being ‘you’, achieving your goals or doing something different.
That different could be anything; learning, improving, a new job/career, friends, partners, hobbies.